When my friend suggested a babysitter who was a male, I hesitated.I finally called out of desperation, hoping he wasn’t hot. We danced around our mutual attraction for a few months, and eventually gave in. ” I started to realize how much of a recluse I’d become over the past couple years.READ MORE: For now, I’m content to be a single mom. Love on the spectrum: How autism brought one couple together When dating in your 40s, is it better to be divorced or never married?
“Maybe I should set up an online dating account to help me get over him,” I said. After a day on the site, I had three dates on the calendar. Asking a man out on a date, or accepting one, wasn’t just 90 minutes over a beer, sharing the anecdotes that would make us attractive enough to make out with each other.At first it was confidence-boosting to see that there were a lot of men who wanted to get to know me. What it really came down to was me finding someone who could take on part of my responsibilities. Taking the time to get to know someone meant pulling from time I spent working or taking care of myself. “You can’t expect to either quit having sex or find a perfect match when you’re 40 years old and have kids,” a male friend said."From firsthand experience, I can tell you that we can't wait to dress up and feel sexy," said Strada."Since we have little ones hanging on us all the time and have to constantly be in responsible mommy mode, dates are an opportunity to let our hair down and let loose." A single mom with a divorce behind her has probably done some soul searching to figure out went wrong in her marriage-- including the part she played in its breakdown.She's been burned before but she's come out with a stronger sense of what she really needs in a relationship and partner.
"You start to realize what you need to truly be happy," says Strada.
"Our patience, love, and capability for nurturing has so more depth because of our kids.
If you’re good to us, you’ll have a more faithful, supportive and loving life partner than you’ve ever had." She may lean heavily on the no-nonsense mom uniform when she's with the kids -- jeans, t-shirts, a ponytail, yoga pants, or any combination thereof -- but if you ask her out on a date, she'll likely relish the chance to get all dolled up.
"Have you ever taken a kiddo to the mall and had them spill an entire Slurpee all over themselves then pitch a major earth-shattering meltdown with four people ahead of you in line at the register? "We bring home the bacon, we fry it up in the pan, we clean the pan...hell, we bought the pan.
We parent with enthusiasm, we work hard at whatever our jobs are, we are tender caretakers and tough decision makers." Sound like the kind of badass, complex woman you want to ride alongside for life? While other people you date might get clingy and annoyed by your few-and-far-between texts, a single mom ain't got time for that.
"If we are spending time with you and opening ourselves up to getting hurt again, we see something special in you that makes taking that risk worth it.