Whenever we would go out clubbing together, boys would always hit on him first.
Not only do I not wish to date within my own race, I prefer to date my own gender.
This has caused a great rift between her and I, and only now has the subject been periodically breached, as I’m very open about my sexuality and my current partners.
My first girlfriend was white, and when my mom found out I was dating a white woman, she kicked me out of the house for being gay, but not before saying, “Well, at least that b***h is white!
” I feel like Asians fall into that gray area of not being accepted as a person of color while being seen as a weird fetish.
I grew up practicing self-defense and playing competitive sports, but I also cooked and cleaned and sang and danced in musicals.
I hope I present myself as a well-rounded individual, but without feedback on dating apps, it’s hard to judge.
I’ve gone on dates with women who seemed great on dating apps, only to have them tell me, “I love ethnic girls.” Dating interracially, there have been times when the woman I am dating shows no interest whatsoever in my cultural background, just that I’m a “hot Asian.” It’s very rare for someone I’m dating to show any interest in the cultural customs I grew up with or my race.
I’ve been on them all, and Tinder seems to have the most diverse pool of users in terms of ethnicity. Coffee Meets Bagel has the most male Asian users from what I’ve seen, but the conversations I’ve had on there haven’t been great. It was gross: fetishes for Asian women I’ve used Bumble, Ok Cupid and Coffee Meets Bagel.
As an Asian man, standing right next to him, dudes would just completely disregard me.
I thought that my chances of finding another guy were much lower, so I convinced myself that I needed this relationship more than my partner.
The women I have dated understood that I desired equality within a relationship, that we would be partners. Nobody has ever said to me, “I’m not into Asian guys.” That said, actions speak louder than words, and I don’t match as often as I’d like on dating apps in Pittsburgh. I’m a pharmacist and I was engaged to someone who didn’t graduate college, and it created such a problem in my family.