Wyatt Fisher, a licensed psychologist in Colorado and founder of a niche dating site.
"This re-defining time spills over into their dating life where women in their 30s are often much more direct on the values they want in a person and what types of behaviors they will and will not tolerate." One of the downsides of being more set in your ways and knowing exactly what you want is that you may not seem quite as fun to some potential mates as women in their 20s appear.
Dating is hard at any age, but even more so in your 30s.
The playing field is narrower, your number of single friends is dwindling and everyone’s carrying around a whole lot more baggage. One user says, “Dating in your 30s is trying to find someone with the least amount of baggage (emotional, children, etc.), or at least less baggage than you.” “It's like sorting through a bargain bin of damaged goods,” another agrees.
Good thing I've learned to enjoy being by myself,” one person said.
But, independent mums were quick to defend themselves.
They expect to discuss living together after nine months of dating and want to get engaged within 18 months," said Dr. "I often caution against these time-based goals, but ultimately, they're the experts in their own relationships." Rhonda Milrad, a licensed clinical social worker and founder of the relationship app Your Sage, agreed, telling me that after 30, people are looking for a life partner.
"Up until this time, your priorities have been career and experiencing life, and you weren't interested in settling down.
“As a single, childless woman in my early thirties, let me assure you that there are a ton of single dads out there, too.” Another sarcastically added, “I'll be 30 in a few months and I'm a single mother (oh, the horror).” But, even when you eventually find someone worth dating things aren’t always as they seem.
Lots of users claimed that, in your 30s, the dating field becomes so much more serious and that trying to find someone who’s not just in panic mode is near-on impossible.
According to the Pew Research Center, the average age for marriage in the United States in 2011 was 27 for women and 29 for men, so by the time we hit 30 a lot of our friends and potential mates are already in committed relationships.
This means that the dating pool after 30 isn't quite what it used to be.
You did not feel the pressure to start thinking about what city you wanted to end up in and the age by which you wanted to have your first kid," Milrad said.