In my opinion, ‘keeping it casual’ is a recipe for disaster.
Not only do I feel that a request by one party to keep things casual is inherently selfish, I find it hard to believe that two people can be intimate and/or spend time together without becoming attached.
The problem is he is starting to get jealous of the other dates. He says he doesn’t know what he wants either but seems to be mad at me all the time.
So aren’t those two prerequisites inherently flawed?And with regard to respect, is it really showing yourself respect if you continue to participate in a casual ‘relationship’ with someone whose feelings don’t match yours?In other words, there is no point in one party settling for a casual arrangement if they want something more.However, the last time I checked, feelings are fluid and have a habit of changing (often inconveniently) over time.“Maybe im just a cynic, but that seems like more than what most are offering.
I’d say go for it.” At first, I dismissed his claim that her suggestion was ‘more than what most’ were bringing to the table.
So I’m going to give you some advice on how you can see yourself a little more clearly.
Now, to be fair, it’s extremely easy to see flaws in other people when you have them yourself. Continue to communicate this way for the rest of your life, otherwise, you will have a hard time no matter who your boyfriend might be. You’re suppose to hang out and be “friends” and share the nasty, but not get emotionally involved or feel any attachment….complicated! Maybe the OP should try finding a F*** buddy instead?
Taking it one step further, it would appear that across the water, UK entrepreneur Thomas Thurlow has tapped into the youth of today’s preference for all things ‘casual’ with the release of ‘Shag Uni.com’.
Set up in 2012 and boasting 2,000 new student subscriptions each day, the site advertises itself as ‘a space for students to get laid on any night of the week’ without the ‘strings attached with dating.’ Now, don’t get me wrong, I’m definitely not a prude, but is keeping it casual really the healthiest option?
I wouldn’t mind giving a relationship a chance but I don’t want to stop dating if he can’t open up to me about it bothering him. Should I initiate the conversation or just walk away? It would be easy for me to give advice to your guy.