Instead, if you want to dance and meet guys who actually want to talk to you, allow me to suggest you find a bar that plays live music.The cover charge helps to keep most of the weirdos out, the music typically starts earlier in the night, and the lighting and sound levels are typically more conducive to actually seeing and hearing other people.Most of us spend a good bit of time and money out at bars socializing and hoping to meet someone special.
Believe me, we’re all too familiar with the cold shoulder that women give off when they’re being approached by a stranger, and that can impact our willingness to approach—even if they’re giving us the signs. Sometimes I can’t even help myself, regardless of where I am.Being in familiar territory, if you will, is helpful in this regard. But in case you weren’t aware, many guys can’t or won't dance.It’s not like you can actually have a conversation, after all.If you are hoping to meet a gentleman on a Friday night, the dark rooms, the loud music, and the all-too-often meat market vibe of a nightclub isn’t going to give you very good odds. I tell each one the same exact thing:“If you’re dating a few men right now and can guarantee me that you’ll have at least one date a week for the duration of our time together, we can start coaching.
Every day I get emails from women who want one-on-one dating coaching but don’t want to try online dating.As much as we may enjoy the perks of bachelorhood, when a guy goes to his place of worship all by himself, it reminds him how much he would like to have someone there beside him and you will get his attention if you are there on your own too.So yeah you better believe I notice every woman under 40 in that church by the end of the sermon, and I’m not the only one.I’ll never forget how annoyed I used to be when my oldest sister would push me out the door on Saturday night, urging me to hit the bars because I would never meet my future husband eating Thai food at home with my girlfriends. I didn’t meet my husband at a bar, but he wasn’t my local Thai food delivery man either.Despite my insistence that there wasn’t, even back then I knew good guys in the city who went to the bar to have a drink and meet women.And that doesn’t just apply to churches: try it on a plane, a bus, in libraries, restaurants with communal tables, or concerts too.